Former actor and writer Andrew McCarthy seemed to have the ideal life, combining a busy globe-trotting writing career with a relationship with a loving and patient partner as well as two children. But a decision to get married to his girlfriend and mother of his younger child sparks a sense of panic. As McCarthy struggles with whether he is doing the right thing, he takes off on a series of trips to come to terms with his personal issues.

From traveling on a cruise through the Amazon to a remote part of coastal Costa Rica to wandering Baltimore with his best friend, the writer slowly realizes what is holding him back. This involves McCarthy reflecting on his part, especially his relationship with his father, which at times was estranged but has improved. While this might all sound self-indulgent, the author is honest about his doubts and flaws, as well as the toll on his partner who has to look after their child while he is often away. It is over-reflective at times but this means McCarthy holds nothing back in examining himself.

The writer’s travels during this long period of pre-wedding reflection include a hike up the majestic Kilimanjaro in Tanzania and trekking in Patagonia in the southernmost part of Argentina. He describes the places well, bringing their remoteness and beauty to the fore. Despite his own penchant for solitude and continuous travel, McCarthy is surprising skeptical of some of the expats, including fellow Americans, he meets in remote places, especially in their motivations for live there.

Without giving away things too much by being too specific, I’ll just say the book comes to a happy conclusion in Ireland, where his girlfriend is from. The Longest Way Home is both a decent travel book and memoir that illustrates how travel can sometimes be a good way to know yourself more.

Year published: 2012